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-- Posted by Missfit on Tuesday, September 26 2006

Hey -
  I hope you can help me out here.  I am a high school creative writing
teacher and I have this awesome homeless student in my class who says
she is a juggalo.  Her writing is genius! Here is the problem: When I first
encountered her two weeks ago, I was somewhat taken back.  She is so
in-your-face about everything and her work is teeming with jugalo jargon,
which I had never heard before. In researching her language to help me
understand her writing, I ran across your website. Now, I think I
understand her better than I do my other students, and I like her work more than
ever.  Here is my problem: As a teacher, I am bound by oath to report any student
who threatens to harm themselves or other people, and lately she has been
writing about "using the hatchet" to cut off people's heads so they can see
the light, or "living by the hatchet."  I have asked her about what it
means, but she just smiles at me and says, it's her way of life.
she certainly does not strike me as violent, so I am quite sure that these
terms should not be taken literally; surely they are metaphoric for
enlightenment or something, but if I can't find out what they do mean, I
will have to report her, which I don't want to do.  Can you help me?  
Please?
Thanking you in advance -
Nurturing lover of all youth

Dear Nurturing Lover:

Being a juggalo is all about metaphors.  I am pretty sure you have nothing to worry about with your student's hatchet references.  For juggalos, hatchets are symbolic.  One of the icons for ICP and their fanbase is a "hatchetman" which is a silhouette of a running man with dreadlocks carrying a hatchet.  Her phrases "using the hatchet" and "living by the hatchet" are references to her life as a juggalette.  I'm glad to see that your experience with her is one of respect and admiration for her creativity.  A lot of times, people look at the harsh outer images of juggalos  (i.e. their language and sometimes appearance) and don't take the time to get to know the individuals.

-- Posted by Missfit on Tuesday, May 31 2005

Ok here’s the deal I wanted to no from a girls point of few, why do women get so pissed off about ever single thing that guys do, like they are always bitching about everything a guy does why is that? Girls complain that they give birth and its so much pain well u we have to go through that same pain every day listening to them bitching about us not being able to do something as good as them.  I have been keeping my girlfriend a secret from my mother and I am planning on surprising her with introducing my girlfriend to my mom on my mom’s b-day.  Is this a good idea?

I wouldn't necessarily introduce your girlfriend at your mom's birthday party for one reason...Your mom's birthday is HER day.  I would be afraid that it might detract from her specialness if she's going crazy about you and your girlfriend.  I would suggest maybe introducing them before the birthday, a day or two ahead.  That way it gives your mom and your girlfriend some time to chill out and get to know each other without making your mom's birthday turn into a crazy day where she's busy trying to get to know your girlfriend.  I'm not entirely sure why you've been keeping your girlfriend a "secret" but I think it'll be a good thing for you to introduce them.  Most moms like the idea that their children meet special people and that those special people might some day give them grandchildren to spoil.  Unless your girlfriend is someone your mom might not approve of (for whatever reason) I think it'll be good for you to introduce them.  Even if mom doesn't like her, it's not mom's decision to date her.  But I still like to get approval from my mom on different things, so I understand the importance of having your mom like your girlfriend.  Good luck with it.

-- Posted by Missfit on Tuesday, May 31 2005

I am a juggalo and have been for quite some time but I also like other rap music like juvenile and like Jay-Z. Does this mean that I’m not a true juggalo if I listen to other music besides psychopathic records? I am true to the juggalos and I love the family and the much love from everyone but sometimes I feel like I don't fit in it since I like other music besides 'the wicked shit'.

Down is down!  As long as you're down, that's all that matters.  Look at Pain Kyller's show.  He's one of the downest juggalos I know AND HE PLAYS ALL SORTS OF SHIT!  He's into psychopathic, classic rock and just about anything.  Chachi's a kickass juggalo.  He's into psychopathic, punk and country.  Sorg fits in there with others who literally bleed psychopathic, but he listens to other stuff.  Being down isn't just about the music.  It's about the sense of belonging and the sense of family.  As long as you're down with that, that's what makes you a juggalo.

-- Posted by Missfit on Tuesday, May 24 2005

My fiancé and my dad don’t get along so well.  My dad thinks he’s no good for me, and my fiancé thinks my dad’s overbearing and won’t let me grow up.  Obviously, I love both of them (in two different ways) and I want them to get along for me.  Is there something I can do to get them so they don’t hate each other?

What you need to realize is that this is normal.  I'm going to assume you're "daddy's little girl."  In your dad's eyes, there is no guy who will ever be good enough for you, let alone your fiance.  What you need to realize about your fiance is that no matter what he does, your dad will never think he's good enough for you.  That doesn't mean he isn't good enough.  It just means your dad is being protective of you and wants what HE thinks is best for you.  Your dad will eventually warm up to your fiance.  It may not be before you get married, it may not be until you have children of your own, but he will eventually come around.  If you want it to happen sooner, just reinforce to your dad that you love him, and that you have made an educated decision in choosing your future husband.  Reinforce the good points your fiance has, that he is supportive of your wishes, hopes and dreams, that he supports you emotionally and financially and that he makes YOU happy.  Your dad will have no other option than to allow you to be happy.  Your future husband can also assist with this.  You know the type of guy your dad wants you to marry.  Let your fiance know what some of those things are.  If your dad wants you to marry a guy who can fix his own car or do minor repairs at home, he wants you to be safe and secure.  Does your fiance know anything about car or home repair?  If so, mention it to your dad, have your fiance offer to assist your dad on projects with the car or around the house...you get the idea.  Give it a shot.  Your dad might see the same sorts of things you do in your guy and might realize the hidden treasure he will make as a son-in-law.

-- Posted by Missfit on Tuesday, May 24 2005

I want to get liposuction done.  Where can I get some information about it and how much do you think it’ll cost?

STOP!  Before you think about how much it costs, there are a few other things you need to consider too!  First of all...liposuction is a surgical procedure.  You need to discuss the pros and cons and potential side effects and complications that can happen during and following the surgery.  Secondly, if you're looking for a "quick fix" to lose the weight, liposuction won't allow you to go to the doctor's office and walk out in a bikini.  The doctor will make incisions and literally suck the fat out of your body.  Then he will need to close the incision.  Once the fat is gone, your skin will sag and hang.  You will need to follow up either with additional surgery to remove excess skin or at the very least wear a body sock that will help the skin regain its elasticity.  This will all take some time.  Now, on to your question about costs.  This is an elective surgery, not often covered by insurance.  Costs will vary, but I'm thinking it will run you a couple thousand dollars AT LEAST.  You also need to realize that liposuction will not change your eating and activities.  If you overeat and don't exercise, you will gain the weight back!  Do you want to spend that much money and have it all go to waste by gaining the weight right back.  Think these things through and contact your local doctor to see what sort of stuff you're looking at for costs and procedures.  Make an EDUCATED decision as to whether you want to pursue liposuction or another weight loss solution.

-- Posted by Missfit on Tuesday, May 24 2005

My boyfriend asked me to give him head.  I never did it before, and I did it wrong.  My teeth scraped him and I guess cut him up a little.  I feel really bad.  He isn’t mad or anything, but I feel really, really bad about it.  How can I learn how to do it better?

What you need to do is learn.  You have one of the best resources at your fingertips...your boyfriend.  It's great that he's understanding about you being new at this.  You need to let him heal up from his scratches and stuff, but don't give up.  Practice makes perfect.  You can get some good pointers at http://www.sex-project.com/blowjobs.shtml or http://www.sex-project.com/fellatio.shtml.  Practice some of the techniques using something comparable to your boyfriend's penis. Obviously, if your boyfriend has a large penis, you don't want to practice on a pencil.  On the other hand, if your boyfriend isn't so well endowed, you don't want to practice on a monster-sized cucumber.  Choose accordingly.  Talk to your boyfriend while you're going down on him.  He'll tell you what he likes.  I would assume he doesn't like the teeth scraping since you cut him up a little.  Next time, try wetting your lips and pulling them over your teeth.  That way your lips are between your teeth and his penis.  Make sure you wet your lips so you're not causing more friction.  Have fun with it.  Blowjobs, like any sexual act with you and your boyfriend, shouldn't be work, shouldn't be something you dread.  Just keep practicing and it'll get better.

-- Posted by Missfit on Tuesday, May 24 2005

Why Dont Girls like most fat kidz?

Unfortunately, the world we live in portrays images of healthy, skinny people all over the news, magazines, cd covers, etc.  People are attracted by what sort of things they want, the sort of things that popularity (i.e. news, magazines, cd covers, etc.) sell SKINNY PEOPLE.  It's kind of funny though when you see that a majority of the people in the US are overweight.  I, for one, am a girl who happens to like fat kidz.  Sorg was relatively skinny when I met him.  He's cuddly now.  If people are fat they need to look out for health issues, but they're people too.  If you're a fat kid (and I assume you are since you're asking this question)...you need to be comfortable with yourself before you can expect someone else to be.  If you are comfortable with yourself, great, you're one step ahead of the rest.  I would suggest though looking for girls in different social circles.  Obviously, if you're looking for fat kid lovers, you won't want to look in a place where there are twigs.  We are out there, you just need to find us. 

-- Posted by Missfit on Tuesday, May 24 2005

First time questener, long time WPAJ listener.  My question is...A friend of mine died and someone i know killed him and i got in a fight with him about it. I am pretty sad and distrot. I need to know what to do.

For the most part, you're going through the normal stages of grief.  What you need to look out for is getting into more trouble over the situation.  It is completely normal for you to be angry.  Unfortunately, I don't have more information about what happened.  If the death was intentional, I certainly understand your anger.  If it was something more of an accident, such as a car accident or a stray bullet, your anger is understandable and should pass.  What I would suggest doing is definitely staying away from this guy until you have a chance to sort things through.  Rely on your friends and loved ones to help you through this.  It should eventually pass.  If in the meantime a "murder" is involved.  You might want to consider going to the authorities if you suspect foul play.  They can do an investigation and make a professional determination, which may help you with your sense of closure over your friend's death.  Whatever you do, don't take the matter into your own hands and try to create justice.  Good luck with it.

-- Posted by Missfit on Thursday, May 12 2005

My lette rushed me to move to florida to be with her, and live with her, and now taht I agree to, she flips and says I'm rushing it, and now she broke up with me because we moved too fast, and she didn't have the clown love to speak to me about it, she told my juggalo homie frank to break it to me, a day after he did, I found out they're together. should i still tlak to her, and be her juggalo homie or wtf should Ido, I got love for her, but she obviously has no respect or clown love for me.

-- Posted by Missfit on Thursday, May 12 2005

sup ... im 16-- dad just got arrested --- im about to be amancipated --- im gonna fail my freshman year --- if i fuck up another school year i cant graduate before im 21 wich is the legal age to graduate here --- should i drop out and get a job? --- im bout to have to go to work in like 20 mins ... id like to hear what you got to say.

-- Posted by Missfit on Thursday, May 12 2005

Hey Missfit.Rite, I have a slight prob. i have known this other juggalo for about one and a haf years now, but we live like 100 miles apart. we talk as much as we can. i told him how i feel and we both want the same thing. i hopefully seeing him this summer. but he lives that far away I don't know whether we will last. all i want to know is will he go off wiv sum1 else???????? i don't wanna tink he will, but if he does then i wanna know and why. we both wanna be woth each other and we even more or less planned wot we gonna do wen he comes ova. we r into the same things (of course people have differences) but i feel like we have just clicked. whut do i do? pleeaaasseeee help me. should i talk toh im, but i don't wanna hurt his feelings or let him think any little of me. fanx for readin. Take it easy

Any relationship is hard, especially when distance is involved. I have a few suggestions on how you can make things work. But, both of you need to do these things. A relationship is give and take. It won't work if only one person is giving and the other is doing all the taking. You already have an advantage in that you have things in common and you've talked about things. But you also have a disadvantage other than just the distance. From the tone of your e-mail, it sounds like you're putting a little too much into this and not necessarily knowing where it's headed. And that's understandable. You can't focus on what will happen if he goes off with someone else. It is a possibility. But you can't get upset with him if he does that. I had a friend in school who was "dating" this guy from another state. They talked on the phone and internet and when they finally got a chance to meet and hang out, she already had a boyfriend. Her online love interest was devastated. I would hope that wouldn't happen in your situation, but it is a possibility. Long distance relationships are hard. People have physical needs as well as emotional needs. Your guy is filling your emotional needs from the sound of it, and I can only assume you're filling his emotional needs. But, can you honestly see yourselves in a committed relationship when you live so far away. I would suggest meeting with no expectations. If a relationship happens, it happens, but don't get upset if he gets a girlfriend in the meantime. And ask yourself a few questions: 1) are you ready for that kind of long distance relationhip, 2) is he ready for that kind of long distance relationship, 3) how long will it be a long distance relationship, are one of you willing to move closer to the other, and 4) are you both willing to make it work. If you can answer those questions and think you're ready for that kind of relationship, seriously talk it over with him. Set some boundaries and make sure that you both work toward the relationship. But again, don't get your hopes up. Long distance relationships are hard to handle. It might be easier to be friends with this guy, at least for now, instead.

-- Posted by Missfit on Thursday, May 12 2005

Ever since I started listening to icp, twiztid,abk i havebecome an outcast because I got to a richie school and noone else likejuggalos/lettes and I am really close to ending all my problems with arazor is their anything that i can do to fix my problem

-- Posted by Missfit on Thursday, May 12 2005

hmmm ok this gurl i have alot of feelings with has a boyfriend...but she
says she has feelings back....but my friend that used to date her says that
she lies alot...whut should i do

My first and most important word of advice to you is this -- Watch your back!  To that I add a couple other things.  You might want to seriously consider that if she's got a boyfriend and she's flirting with you, what makes you think that if you were dating her she wouldn't be flirting with other guys at the same time.  If your buddy used to date her, and he says she lies a lot, that's another good sign that the relationship may not be the best thing for you.  Always remember, when it comes to relationships, you need to consider your bros before any hoes.  Your bros will be there for you no matter what.  Girls come and go, until you meet the right one and then it's okay to do things with her.  From the sounds of it, this isn't the girl.  If you're looking for some booty or a fling, then go for it.  But, if you're looking for anything substantial, you're not going to find it with her.  Move on.

Okay, it's been a few months -- Posted by Missfit on Thursday, May 12 2005
Okay, so it's been a long time.  But what can you expect?  I have a decent show running every week as well as working, as well as school as of late.  But none of that is a good excuse!  But I am going to try to put up some of the questions from my inbox and some from the show on here.  I realize that not all you ninjas out there are able to listen to the show, and why should you get the short end of things when you need advice too? 

-- Posted by Missfit on Friday, August 6 2004

I keep getting emails such as the following in my inbox from various juggalos....This response is for all of you...

Hey, Missfit, i have a bit a problem. I wanna get deep into this shit, but i
have nooooooo clue about the whole initiation thing. I here about it but i
cant get friggin' clear answers on what it is. Can you pleeeeeease tell me
how to get initiated? I'm ready for this!

Nooby

Dear Nooby;

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but there is no official "initiation."  Being a juggalo is not like being a fraternity boy having your ass paddled while chugging a beerbong and fucking a sheep.  Being a juggalo is about being part of a family.  If you're a juggalo, you're a juggalo, plain and simple.  You dig the music, you understand the vibe, you feel it.  If you can honestly say you feel it and you rep the shit, then you are a juggalo!  Maybe you just need to hear someone say it.  If that's the case, consider this your entry.  Now when you pass a juggalo on the street give a shoutout and get one in return.  Hit up some shows, or a signing...plenty of them listed in the events section of our own wpaj or www.faygoluvers.net or www.realjuggalos.com .  Just feel it!  If you have anymore questions hit up www.whatisajuggalo.com .  There are plenty of history and informative articles on the realjuggalos site and the what is a juggalo site. 

-- Posted by Missfit on Thursday, August 5 2004

Alright so I'm 17 and at the gathering I had sex with a 27 year old. Ok I was drunk but it wasn't like he was a stranger. I know him he is part of our crew and that. I don't regret what I did, however I don't know what he is thinking. Do guys that old play games like that? Cause like I've had this school girl type crush on him since about forever. I never thought anything would happen between us. I'm not sure if I was used because he calls me all the time like every night. And we only did it once. Like he knew I was upset the one night cause I was kind of away from everyone and he came over and gave me a kiss like everyone was right there and could have seen us you know but it was like he didn't care. I know that if I wanted a relationship with him then I would have to wait for a year. Is it wrong though? I mean he is 10 years older then me? None of our friends know about it and it's killing me. But they would kill us and I don't want that to happen. I really just want to know is it really all that wrong?
Thank you
Jail Bait

Dear Bait;

Your situation isn't that weird...and it's not that wrong.  Technically, you are of the age that you can make the decision.  As a general rule of thumb...this is acceptable if he were 21 or 22.  But honestly, if you guys are friends, keep it as that.  If he's seriously interested in something more, you two can talk about it and you will be 18 soon.  Just keep the friendship thing going until then.  You need to know whether or not he's seriously interested and not just interested because you are a "forbidden fruit" at this point.  If the attention is going to go away once you're legal...that's just not cool.  Age is a state of mind.  As long as you both have stuff in common and you enjoy each other's company and such, there is nothing mandating that you can't be together.  You just need to figure it out for yourselves...although I would recommend waiting until you are 18 just in case things get weird with your other friends and someone gets jealous enough to make an annonymous phone call or something. 

-- Posted by Missfit on Monday, August 2 2004

hey man was up yo my mom wants me to stay here but i told her if she wantsw to keep me shell have to  keep my juggalo brother ***** so tell me what i should do 


homie

Dear Homie;

I understand how close you and your juggalo brother may be, but you have to consider it's your mom's house...she's the one that pays the bills and puts food on the table, so it's her decision who stays and who goes.  I'm sure that if you were to talk to her about your bud you could probably work something out.  I lived with one of my friends for a bit.  His mom was cool with me sticking around as long as I did a few things:

1.  Pay some rent.  I'm not talking anything outrageous, drop a few bucks for food and stuff...maybe something like $20 or $50 a month...whatever's agreeable to your bud and mom. 

2.  Clean up after your punk asses!  I made sure that with my monthly rent I also did some basic housework...washing dishes, doing laundry, sweeping, mopping, etc.

3.  Most importantly, you have to realize it is her house.  Set some ground rules and make sure you keep to them.  If mom wants everyone in the house by 11:00 p.m., make sure you and your bud are home by that time.  If she doesn't want any drugs or shit in the house, hey...it's her house afterall.  You're there because she has invited you to stay there.

It's pretty simple.  But, ultimately, you need to talk to your mom and make sure everything's cool.  I'm sure she's not gonna want to kick you out or anything, you are her flesh and blood after all. 

-- Posted by Missfit on Monday, August 2 2004

i hate faggots but my mom doesnt accept that  id hate to upset my mom im only 13 but anyways if i keep hating them my mom will lose her mind id hate to do that to her help me





                               yo juggalo homie 
                                 homo hater

Dear Hater;

Hate is such a strong emotion.  I understand that there are certain things that people feel, but hate for certain kinds of people is prejudice.  I can understand you hating a particular "faggot" but you can't categorize them all the same way.  Look at how much you hate to be labeled and hated just because you're a juggalo.  I know plenty of people who stereotype people.  I know that I hate it when people assume that I'm a highschool dropout and a junkie just because I'm down.  Wouldn't it burn them to realize that I have my bachelor's degree in English Literature and am working on going to law school?  Same goes for gay people...I'm not crazy about the flamers who are looking for attention, but some of my really good friends are gay.  You have to take each person as an individual.  Maybe then you won't get so upset and have to worry about putting your mom away because of it.  If you want to talk more about it, drop me a line.

-- Posted by Missfit on Monday, August 2 2004

My parents just found out that i am a self mutalator and i've been in all these groups and therapy...My friend also is and we were going to play are parents into letting us go to a rehab half way across the country so we can ditch school...I feel really bad because they just want to do whats best for me even though i'm just doing it to get away from them. Should I go or not?

mutilation mix

Dear Mutilation;

That's just not cool.  I know what it's like to hate school and all, but your parents are really concerned about you.  You shouldn't want to go half way across the country just to get away from things.  If this is the best place for you to go, then that's where you should go...but seriouslly consider it.  These sort of places aren't easy, especially when you don't have friends and family to support you.  For all you know, you'll get out there and they'll have you sit with a shrink who really fucks with you.  You'll be bawling like a newborn baby and need some support from friends, but you're in the middle of nowhere.  My advice...stay where you're comfortable.  But get the help because you need it and want it, not because you need a break from school and family stuff.

-- Posted by sirpsychosexy on Tuesday, June 22 2004
Got this one tonight in my invox out of nowhere figured I'd include it here for fuck's sake...
 
 Hey, look, I jus got initiated as a Juggalette, n I have NO fuckin clue fa a Juggalette name...help! My REAL name's Ashley, I'm 13, n I'm SO ready ta get deep in this! Write back please...
 
 ~*Ashley*~
     

Not much I can tell ya.  I got my name before I was even a Juggalo(sirpsychosexy).  Now I jsut go by "Sorg" anyways.  "Chachi" was givenbefore any juggalo shit.  Snackz was given to him at Juggalo Day 1. There's not much to it.  It just kinda falls into place, y'know.

hope this helped...

Sorg